Nonviolent Communication
by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Deepak Chopra, Magiarí Díaz Díaz, Alan Rafael Seid Llamas, Rosenberg · first published 1999
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Why HN recommends it
Structured method for empathic listening and expressing needs without blame, useful for conflict, difficult conversations, and relationships with coworkers, co-founders, partners, and kids; suits managers.
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An enlighting look at how peaceful communication can create compassionate connections with family, friends, and other acquaintances, this book uses stories, examples, and sample dialogues to provide solutions to communication problems both at home and in the workplace. Guidance is provided on identifying and articulating feelings and needs, expressing anger fully, and exploring the power of empathy in order to speak honestly without creating hostility, break patterns of thinking that lead to anger and depression, and communicate compassionately. These nonviolent communication skills are fully
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https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Lif... Nonviolent Communication. I think it was linked on HN where it caught my attention. This book teaches a great way to communicate, but for me, it has also helped me think about my feelings…
on “Ask HN: Best books you read in the past decade?” ↗Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg is an amazing eye-opener. It's a book about how how to interact with your fellow humans in a way that enriches the lives of everyone around you. It's full of things that should…
on “Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?” ↗…culprit is you not accepting someone - own your feelings...don't defend them, especially by blaming them on other people. - apply all of this to every single person, including the worst of people. - read "Nonviolent Communication" https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Lif...
on “The Best Way to Not Get Tenure” ↗Two books that really helped me were Nonviolent Communication (Marshall Rosenberg) and Radical Acceptance (Tara Brach). The specific techniques outlined in the books were helpful, but I benefited more from the mentality that you can communicate the same message…
on “Ask HN: Resources for introverted devs to learn workplace politics?” ↗1. Book: Nonviolent Communication, by Marhsall Rosenberg PhD. Great things are built by teams. The more senior I become, the greatest challenges involve teamwork, and the programming is the easy part. I've read countless leadership…
on “Ask HN: What is the best money you have spent on professional development?” ↗…just saying back to the other person what they said is very useful here. I have run workshops where people did this and it is remarkable what a difference it makes. I also like Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication. I think part of the problem is that people don't realize there is a more productive way of going about things, and in addition there certainly are many parties today that profit from having people screaming…
on “The “Other Side” Is Not Dumb” ↗I'll throw out Marshall Rosenberg's "Nonviolent Communication." Call it one framework for listening centered around resolving conflict between individuals and groups. It provides examples of the kind of active listening and questioning mentioned in the article.…
on “What Great Listeners Actually Do” ↗…an expert on sociopaths, since that is what it seems JA is. I think it would also helpful would be helpful to learn communication skills like active listening and the ones in Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication.
on “Not Working for Us (Preparing to Discuss Jacob Applebaum at CCC)” ↗I think one common reason people are not reasonable is they lack proficiency in the needed social skills. I think books like Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication can be helpful here.
on “Reasonable Person Principle” ↗…“Your math grade is a C. Would you like tutoring?” Violent language like your examples hurt people. Those hurts sum to resent and ultimately more violence. The following book goes into this in depth: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Marshall B. Rosenberg, Arun Gandhi
on “Why Am I So Lazy?” ↗…asshole doesn't know or doesn't care when they act like a prick. The fact that this is something you're consciously aware of and working on I think means you're fine. One book I might recommend though is 'Nonviolent Communication' by Marshall Rosenberg. It definitely feels a little hippy dippy at times and the skeptical asshole in me occasionally rolls my eyes at it, but I think it's really helped me understand some of my own…
on “Assholes: A Probing Examination” ↗…doesn't natively have a lot of EQ, my experience has been that people have been able to explain it to me. It's not an easy or pleasant process, though. I strongly recommend Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication. It teaches a method communicating which, when followed, pushes you into introspection, understanding why your emotions are what they are, understanding what it is you want, and communicating those things…
on “I Don’t Want to Be Like a Family with My Co-Workers” ↗I’d recommend reading this and then immediately reading Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Carnegie opened my eyes to how to communicate productively, but it’s also a really manipulative way of being. Nonviolent communication comes from a position of love and understanding…
on “Ask HN: Name 3-5 books that had the most impact on your career and knowledge?” ↗I really enjoyed the book: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg - which despite the title, is actually very relevant to this topic. I picked it up after hearing a number of very positive reviews, and despite my skepticism,…
on “Your Most Important Skill: Empathy” ↗Probably the single most important thing I've read in years: Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. Also: Irvin Yalom, Love's Executioner Gavin Extence, The Universe vs. Alex Woods
on “Ask HN: Books you read in 2016?” ↗