Messages
by Matthew McKay, Martha Davis, Patrick Fanning · first published 1995
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"Messages" by Matthew McKay. "Mindset" by Carol Dweck.
on “Ask HN: What makes a good technical leader – any recommended books?” ↗…intended as such, but that's often how it feels. It's also almost always self-serving; the advisor wants to be a hero, and the recipient picks up on this and ends up feeling alone. Really recommend the book Messages: The Communications Skills Book by McKay.
on “Basic Social Skills Guide (2012)” ↗Messages: The Communication Skills Book Di Matthew McKay, Martha Davis, Patrick Fanning Basics, without any controversial ideas. This book helped me a lot.
on “Ask HN: Books for Effective Communication” ↗…Antidepressant Skills at Work: Dealing with mood problems in the workplace. Retrieved from http://www.comh.ca/antidepressant-skills/work/workbook/pages.... McKay, M., Davis, M., & Fanning, P. (2009). Messages: The Communication Skills Book. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications. # Some High Level Take Home Messages - negotiate your own behavior - everyone is doing the best they can - communication is…
on “Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlier in your career?” ↗