Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus

Name: Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus
ISBN: 006123205X

by John Gray · first published 1992

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Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they really are and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn't ari

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resdirector · May 18, 2010 · Recommends

I think in this context "I don't buy it" is closer to "I think you are misinterpreting your feelings" rather than invalidation. With respect to her emotional distance, John Gray's book: "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" has some good insight re Men's need for space and distance when things go bad. I think her actions were very sensible for a long term relationship.
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mitchelldeacon9 · Dec 15, 2016 · Recommends

…ed. Covey, Stephen (1989) Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Ekman, Paul (2007) Emotions Revealed: Recognizing Faces and Feelings to Improve Communication and Emotional Life Gray, John (1992) Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Greene, Robert (1998) 48 Laws of Power Kahneman, Daniel (2011) Thinking, Fast and Slow Munger, Charles (1995) 'Psychology of Human Misjudgment', speech at Harvard, unpublished Packard, Vance (1957)…
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unityByFreedom · Sep 10, 2021 · Recommends

…same time. Good news, you're on the right track. Acknowledging that there is a problem is the first step. Many people don't get there. If you're introspective, get some self help books. John Gray's Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus [1] can open doors to understanding the opposite sex, even if you don't agree with everything he writes. The crux of the problem is we all assume everyone wants the same thing, and we do, but we prioritize…
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bitanarch · Jul 30, 2011 · Recommends

…might have to do with thinking styles instead of malice - and it's a very common way to misunderstand people not working in the tech or science industry. If you have some free time, go read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", which talks about the difference. It isn't always gender - the book is simply giving you familiar examples. But there does exist a sizable number of people who tend to think from feelings first, instead…
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6cxs2hd6 · Feb 7, 2014 · Mentions

This reminds me of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Stereotype Woman wants to talk about her problems, for the sake of venting. Stereotype Man wants to offer solutions and fix things. Hilarity ensues and sitcom writers get rich. I wrote "Stereotype"…
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DarkIye · Jan 11, 2015 · Mentions

I remember reading about positive conceptualisation techniques in Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. This is nothing particularly special. What if you spent 90 minutes detailing one another's flaws? You'd come away with a similarly inaccurate negative impression of your partner.
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agota · Apr 16, 2022 · Mentions

>Too often for me, I have tried to figure out a solution to a problem, when someone was just trying to let me know how they feel John Gray addressed this in "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus" - I believe he argued that this is the #1 mistake men make in relationships. IIRC, he also argued that the #1 mistake women make in relationships was trying to help men by giving unsolicited advice.
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vhpoet · Aug 2, 2020 · Mentions

…John by Robert Bly The Call of the Wild and White Fang by Jack London Treasure Island by Robert Louis Stevenson Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari White Teeth by Zadie Smith Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray Moby Dick by Herman Melville
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johnrob · Feb 22, 2011 · Mentions

I'd love to read a book/blog exposing "the mind" of the corporate acquirer, much like the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" supposedly does for the sexes.
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madrox · Sep 5, 2019 · Critical

I was really into Myers-Briggs in my early 20s. As a bit of a lost soul it was a great beginning for understanding how I could be different from other people. It’s right up there with “Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus.” (Talk about a book that probably hasn’t stood the test of time!)
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abalashov · Jan 2, 2023 · Mentions

…you're interrupting with. The devil is in the details and the substance, IMHO. A long time ago, I read a convincing take--it might have been in some kind of pop psychology tractate along the lines of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus"--that likened ideal interruption mannerisms to snatching the ball from a teammate in basketball. If you take the ball from a teammate and then turn around and use it to make a 3-point shot from mid-court,…
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ompogUe · Aug 3, 2023 · Mentions

A bit stereotyping and pop-sci, but one of the ideas from the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" was that men define their worth by what they do, women by how they communicate.
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