The way of the superior man
by David Deida · first published 1997
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Self-help on masculinity, purpose and relationships with women; readers credit it with encouraging a sense of purpose, self-acceptance and facing conflict with confidence. Suits men seeking direction after a breakup.
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The mark of a true classic is that it becomes more relevant with the passage of time Twenty years ago, David Deida wrote The Way of the Superior Man share lessons on “how a man can grow spiritually while passionately tussling with the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire,” Today, men of all ages continue to struggle with these universal challenges, and the practical insights found in this book will help each one of us to give the gifts we were born to give. “It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart,” writes David Deida “It is also time to evolve beyon
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…Mr. Nice Guy Mark Manson - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck Mark Manson - Models For those looking into reading into masculinity (to understand yourself or other masculine people: David Deida - The Way of the Superior Man Moore & Gillette - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover Zan Perrion- The Alabaster Girl Disclaimer: Some of these books I recommend are not going to be based on much research and science, or delve into more…
on “Ask HN: What was a book that changed your life?” ↗I recommend The Way of the Superior Man (http://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-Spiritual-Challenges/...). My roommate lent it to me after an ugly breakup. The title is a little silly (I certainly wouldn't describe myself as "spiritual")…
on “What one book could give me a new, useful superpower?” ↗…nothing to do with whether people bring value. Again, the software engineer Dan is not a more valuable person than customer support Jan. If you don't get this difference, read No More Mr. Nice Guy or The Way of the Superior Man. The titles are somewhat of a misnomer; I suppose women will gain just as much value from those books. This is a total shot in the dark, but female engineers are probably paid less than male engineers…
on “Massachusetts Bans Employers from Asking Applicants About Previous Pay” ↗Same, had a feeling you read that book haha. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida is a great follow-up. The guru stuff is sometimes overwhelming, but there are good ideas in that book. There is also a fantastic summary/teaser of the book on FightMediocrity (YouTube…
on “Why It Doesn't Pay to Be a People Pleaser” ↗…follows: 1. Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki 2. The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss 3. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie 4. The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene 5. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida 6. Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl 7. Mastery by George Leonard 8. Mindfulness for Beginners by Jon Kabat-Zinn 9. The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday
on “9 Books That Changed My Life – FightMediocrity Beginner’s Reading List” ↗"Let"? As in .. you have to ask? Be "the man." Take "the risk." She will follow you. (Otherwise, dump her.) Also, read "The Way of the Superior Man" (and/or other books) by David Deida. It will be one of the better investments you will make in your life. PS. There's a reason San Francisco's dead-last in (_heterosexual_) sex, young children and…
on “Any recommendations on convincing wives to let their husbands become entrepreneurs?” ↗Great article and interesting perspective. I think the best counter to Steve's opinions can be found in the book The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. It is just a truism of life that if you are a man, your work must be the most important thing in your life and to be truly fulfilled you "must pursue your truth and give your gift to the…
on “Lies Entrepreneurs Tell Themselves” ↗…archetypes that are well presented. If this is something that interests you, I can strongly recommend the books Iron John by Robert Bly, King Warrior Magician Lover by Robert Moore, and the excellent Way of The Superior Man by David Deida. I find this quote by Alan Watts particularly poignant, and perhaps an antidote to the original post: "We thought of life by analogy with a journey, a pilgrimage, which had a serious…
on “Dokkodo by Miyamoto Musashi ” ↗…Eckhert Tolle Mastery George Leonard Steve Jobs Biography The Last Lecture Steve Pavlina Books Iacocca Striking Thoughts Bruce Lee Carlos Castaneda Ghost in the Wires Richest Man in Babylon Way of the Superior Man Losing My Virginity Think and Grow Rich Delivering Happiness
on “Ask HN: What are some Good Books you have read in past one year or so..” ↗The Way of The Superior Man The Art of Learning As a Man Thinketh Thinking, Fast and Slow Think and Grow Rich! Psycho-Cybernetics Peopleware: Productive Projects and Teams Rich Dad, Poor Dad
on “Ask HN: What are some books that changed how you think?” ↗…book can trigger a change of perspective on a particular aspect of your life: '4-hour workweek' - Tim Ferriss (on lifestyle) 'Get Things Done' - David Allen (on organization and productivity) 'The Way of the Superior Man' - David Deida (on relationships) 'The prince' - Machiavelli' (on business and strategy) 'The little prince' - Antoine de Saint-Exupéry (on meaning of life) 'The Feynman Lectures on Physics' - Richard…
on “Ask HN: What are the books that changed the perspective of your life?” ↗…book can trigger a change of perspective on a particular aspect of your life: '4-hour workweek' - Tim Ferriss (on lifestyle) 'Get Things Done' - David Allen (on organization and productivity) 'The Way of the Superior Man' - David Deida (on relationships) 'The prince' - Machiavelli' (on business and strategy) 'The little prince' - Antoine de Saint-Exupéry (on meaning of life) 'The Feynman Lectures on Physics' - Richard…
on “Ask HN: What books have changed your mind?” ↗"Way of the Superior Man by David Deida"
on “Ask HN - what interesting books did you read this year (including non tech)?” ↗- The Way of The Superior Man. The only "self help" book I give any credit. It really boils down to encouraging people to have a purpose in life and accept ourselves. - The Stupidity Paradox. Ever feel the world works in a "stupid"…
on “Ask HN: Which books you have read till now that were worth investing time in?” ↗Throwaway since this is a bit embarrassing. How to Win Friends and Influence People. Crucial Conversations. 5 Love Languages. The Way of the Superior Man. I'm 37 and I'm a stereotypical geeky, low-social-capability guy. Coasted through life on being smart, to the exclusion of much else. I'd get pedantic and into pointless arguments, but justify it because…
on “Ask HN: What books fundamentally changed the way you think about the world?” ↗