How to talk so kids will listen

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• kqr · Apr 1, 2022 · Recommends

  …to create a high-trust, less authoritarian, open, collaborative environment within a traditional hierarchy: Marquet, Leadership is Language. 5. Communication: Voss, Never Split the Difference. Faber, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen. 6. How to help organisations who don't want to admit what their problem is: Weinberg, Secrets of Consulting. 7. How to structure organisations and processes to deliver maximum value: Reinertsen, Principles…

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• w4tson · Nov 13, 2019 · Recommends

  I’ve “read” 19 books this year (thanks Audible) These were my faves: “Wolf hall” by Hilary Mantell “The Selfish Gene” by Richard Dawkins “Never Split the difference” by Chris Voss “How to talk so kids will listen” by Joanna Faber & Julie King

  on “Ask HN: Best books you've read in 2019?” ↗
• arikr · May 8, 2018 · Recommends

  …suggestions: The Gardener and the Carpenter Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/05/the-war... The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline That Really Works! How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child And Baby Makes Three The Rational Male - Positive Masculinity Parenting With Love And Logic

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• kqr · Aug 11, 2020 · Recommends

  …and do, and ability to influence decisions. If you feel like the middle manager is powerless, these are exactly the types of books to read. Other recommendations include High Output Management, Drive, How To Talk So Kids Will Listen (I'm serious), Turn the Ship Around, Out of the Crisis, and more.

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• gregwebs · Nov 27, 2020 · Recommends

  …unless they emphasize independent thinking. Personally I try to avoid telling children what exactly to do and try to listen to them, essentially treating them like adults: this is explained in the book "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen". "Resistance to being told what to think" is given in this essay as working with curiosity, but I think it can also have a negative feedback. The independent thinker can be less curious about ideas…

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• DanBC · Aug 4, 2016 · Recommends

  …for their positive behaviours - "look how many beans you've got. Great job! You've worked really hard for this." You might also want to consider seeking a diagnosis for ADD or similar. There's also "how to talk so kids will listen" which seems to get metioned in conversations like this. (Sorry, on terrible monile at the moment so unable to provide links).

  on “Ask HN: Any experience with defiant children?” ↗
• circlefavshape · Aug 13, 2020 · Recommends

  "How to talk so kids will listen ..." is a fantastic book, and I constantly recommend it to pretty much everyone. The fake choice thing, though, never EVER worked with my kids.

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• MandieD · Nov 15, 2021 · Recommends

  Solid parenting advice, or a consulting technique: the “wish list” from “How to talk so kids will listen, how to listen so kids will talk”, or putting something that seems ridiculous into the backlog to keep the meeting moving. Wonderful comment that brought this book and idea to my attention: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=27468582

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• kleer001 · Mar 29, 2023 · Recommends

  Child care. For my 2yo and 2mo. It's similar to optimally dealing with adults (NVC and such), but consistently over-melodramatic adults with developmental issues. The "How to talk so kids will listen" is a great series of books.

• monknomo · Jun 17, 2026 · Recommends

  How to Talk so Kids Will Listen (and How to Listen so Kids Will Talk) is excellent

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