Conscious loving
the journey to co-commitment
by Gay Hendricks, Kathlyn Hendricks · first published 1990
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Here is a powerful new program that can clear away the unconscious agreements patterns that undermine even your best intentions. Through their own marriage and through twenty years' experience counseling more than one thousand couples, therapists Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks have developed precise strategies to help you create a vital partnership and enhance the energy, creativity, and happiness of each individual. You will learn how to: Let go of power struggles and need for control; Balance needs for closeness and separateness; Increase intimacy by telling the "microscopic truth"; C
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…problems with relationships? I've done more than my fair share of stumbling (including one divorce) and at the age of 32 only now do I feel like I am "getting it". Nonetheless, I'd recommend the book _Conscious Loving_ by Gay and Kaithlyn Hendricks. Instead of the superficialities preached by the Venus books, etc they get to the heart of the matter by having us examine ourselves for personal projects, secrets that…
on “Ask HN: Interesting (Non software) books?” ↗Kathlyn Hendricks, a relationship expert (_Conscious Loving_ is a fascinating book for the engineering mind dealing with relationships), offers this advice for when to leave a personal relationship (point 2 of the audio). Maybe it's applicable when pursuing ideas…
on “Ask Jessica: What makes for a good founder?” ↗For any suffering a communication issue in your relationship, I can't recommend enough the book: "Conscious Loving" [1] Asides from being an enjoyable read, it provides an excellent framework and guide for how to have conversations about difficult topics successfully. It pairs well with the book "Nonviolent Communication"…
on “On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness” ↗…interpreted this as deep love being random. Maybe that wasn't the intent, after re-reading it. Just wanted to demonstrate what had worked for me to rekindle intimacy. And that it was teachable. The book "Conscious Loving" by Gay and Kaitlyn Hendricks is the book that talks about telling the Microscopic Truth. It's helped me tremendously. I enjoy their newsletter a lot. They discuss in detail many of the concepts in…
on “When my wife developed Alzheimer’s, the story of our marriage kept us connected” ↗I find most people will be vulnerable if you start the conversation that way by exposing your own vulnerability. The book Conscious Loving touches on “telling the microscopic truth” which provides a lot of tactics for telling messy, complicated feelings. It’s a wonderful read and will improve your relationships.
on “How ‘Authentic Relating’ Made Vulnerability a Movement (2017)” ↗If you're just learning to be open, you'd probably enjoy the book, Conscious Loving. There's a whole section dedicated to telling the "microscopic truth" in your relationships. https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Loving-Co-Committment-Gay-H... Painful to do in the beginning, but as…
on “Ask HN: Is there a new habit you cultivated recently that is really paying off?” ↗…feelings arise, giving a stream of consciousness dump of my thought process. All feelings. Weird feelings. Feelings that won’t paint me in the best light. All gets revealed to my spouse. It’s from the book Conscious Loving.
on “Ask HN: What is one idea that has influenced the way you live?” ↗