The way we never were
by Stephanie Coontz · first published 1992
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"The Way We Never Were is an examination of two centuries of family life that shatter the myths that burden modern families and make them long for the past." "In a new introduction, Coontz examines key cultural events since the original 1992 publication - from Bill Clinton's sexual transgressions to high school shootings across the nation - and reexamines the myths that continue to compel the American people to long for a time that never was."--BOOK JACKET.
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…found. This can be true when one person is the breadwinner and the other is practically/partially disabled, too. I don't know if you've read this book, but it is fascinating. https://www.amazon.com/Way-We-Never-Were-Nostalgia/dp/046509... Of course, this book isn't the be-all answer to how things really were. I would suggest what we're really grappling with here is a breakdown in social order where kids are adequately…
on “A Slow-Motion Trainwreck Facing the Meal-Kit Industry” ↗…that there were incredibly high levels of cooperation between people? I don't want to put a huge burden of evidence of you, but am curious. Also if anyone gets a chance please look into the book "The Way We Never Were" by Stephanie Coontz. Good examination of American family trends and activities over time.
on “The Strange Disappearance of Cooperation in America (2013)” ↗…seems to reinforce unhealthy and oppressive norms that, in my strong opinion, lead eventually to so many destructing relationships in the long run. For additional reading, I'd greatly recommend "The Way We Never Were" by Stephanie Coontz as to why this mid-century style relationship was highly unusual in the historical context. https://www.amazon.com/Way-We-Never-Were-Nostalgia/dp/046509... Edit: Formatting
on “Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?” ↗…mothers, who decided to have kids very young. I think you might find this a fascinating work, harmonious with your family's experience, even if it's from a different time and place. - https://www.amazon.com/Way-We-Never-Were-Nostalgia-ebook/dp/... This is a discussion of American lenses on the past and how we often misread propaganda or middle class expectations as being what really happened. I also am sort of loafing my…
on “Gallup: U.S. church membership dips below 50% for first time” ↗Although more about social values than education, the book "The Way We Never Were: American Families And The Nostalgia Trap" just came up in conversation recently, and it deals specifically with the way we view the past through rose colored glasses. http://www.amazon.com/Way-We-Never-Were-Nostalgia/dp/0465090...
on “American Kids Aren't Getting Dumber; They Were Just Never That Smart” ↗