The science of trust
by John Mordechai Gottman · first published 2011
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Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect, respect, and show affection.
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…describes the different forms of armor we wear, and discusses how building shame resilience and daring greatly are critical to forming deeper and more meaningful connections with the people around us. The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples by John Gottman revolutionized my understanding of trust and relationships. Reading it was like flipping on the light switch after stumbling around in the dark for decades.…
on “Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?” ↗The Science of Trust by John Gottmann is a great read if you are interested in this. Unlike most behavioral health, they use actual science and math to describe and dissect behaviors and outcomes
on “How Happy Couples Argue: Study (2019)” ↗…into all the neat effects needed to make a function pure but still handle IO/async, etc. - Peopleware by DeMarco, Lister. My go to book for people management and a philosophy of project management - Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples by Gottman. I love this book for teaching me how to be a better spouse and friend. - The Bogleheads' Guide to Investing by Larimore, Lindauer. A great guide to building…
on “Ask HN: What nonfiction books do you keep rereading?” ↗I've learned a tremendous amount about how to be a better friend by reading "Daring Greatly", "The Science of Trust", and "12 Rules for Life", as well as from how my friends and family have helped me when I'm down. Verbally expressing your love and support for your friend, and helping them see the positive aspects…
on “Exercise as a treatment for depression: a meta-analysis (2016)” ↗As I mentioned to above poster. Here is a source from "The Science of Trust" by Dr. John M. Gottman, foremost expert on this subject. "As we interview these abused women, Neil and I were astounded by one consistent story about half of these women told us. They said that the…
I came across this while reading The Science of Trust by John Gottman. The Zeigarnik effect states something fairly obvious: that we tend to remember tasks that are uncompleted or interrupted and that when we complete a task we are less well able to recall…
on “Zeigarnik effect – remember uncompleted tasks better” ↗Yes. It would. Here's one from "The Science of Trust" by Dr. John M. Gottman, foremost expert on this subject. "As we interview these abused women, Neil and I were astounded by one consistent story about half of these women told us. They said that the…