The Mystery method
by Erik Von Markovik, Lovedrop · first published 2007
55% recommend36% neutral9% critical
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A practical, step-by-step guide to meeting and talking with people. It builds social confidence and offers ideas on attraction and relationships. Its value extends beyond the tactics.
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One of the world's most renowned pick-up artists shares his secrets for approaching, attracting, and enjoying intimate relationships with beautiful women.
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…experience/publications in it, and I attended a group therapy thing for most a of a year weekly. My personal advice. Read How to Win Friends and Influence People, some pua books if you're interested in girls (The Mystery Method & Roosh V's Bang) and also as a way of developing a theory of mind, books on ettiquette and social skills, and evolutionary psychology books and apply what you learn. Keep what works. Hanging out with…
on “Is Hacker News potential treatment for those with Asperger Syndrome?” ↗These books, although some now I might not endorse some of their teaching but they have help me to see the world in a different light: The Mystery Method - Erik Von Markovik[Social Engineering at its best] Rich Dad Poor Dad: Guide to Investing - Robert Kiyoski The Thoughtworks Anthology: Essays on Software Technology and Innovation (Pragmatic Programmers)…
on “Ask HN: Good books?” ↗…I'm looking at you, Resharper. -You will get banned from world of warcraft for gaming the auction house. This is the best thing that will ever happen to you, so I suggest you expedite it. -Read "The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed". I swear to god you won't figure this shit out in any other way. -Try to get into a better uni. While the education quality will be identical, you want to get into…
on “Ask HN: What would you tell your 16-year-old self?” ↗Read "The Game" and then "The Mystery Method." Seriously. And I think its not too much to say that there are side benefits besides becoming less shy after reading them.
on “20 Ways to Attack Shyness” ↗For the same reasons, if you want to understand why relationships are hard and what is really going on between people, The Mystery Method by Mystery - About half is a real down-to-the bits theory of love and attraction. The other half is advice about how to pick up dates at bars. I only wanted the first part, but both are fascinating.…
on “Ask HN: Interesting (Non software) books?” ↗Reading the Mystery Method was a life changer for me, I recommend it to everybody. Yes, it is so much more. Mystery himself said: "It's not about picking up women - it's about building a life!"
on “Ask HN: What can I do to improve social skills?” ↗Ones I've read The Game, Rules of the Game Ones I haven't read but have read much by the author that's good Bang, by RooshV Just haven't read, Mystery Method, Magic Bullets Uber misogynistic blogposts: Roissy in Dc Very misogynistic blog: Rooshv Sort of clinical blog : The Man Who Is Thursday reddit.com/r/seduction is okay too
on “The New Dating Game” ↗Ones I've read The Game, Rules of the Game Ones I haven't read but have read much by the author that's good Bang, by RooshV Just haven't read, Mystery Method, Magic Bullets Uber misogynistic blogposts: Roissy in Dc Very misogynistic blog: Rooshv Sort of clinical blog : The Man Who Is Thursday reddit.com/r/seduction is okay too
on “The New Dating Game” ↗…everyone declares "this is because in old times, men hunted lions while the women watched the children" to every gender stereotype is just ridiculous. When related to dating, I like to call this "The Mystery Method Theory of Sexual Evolution", because most of the pervasive explanations about why the sexual market works the way it does is copied straight from Neil Strauss' book "The Game". A lot of these ideas are…
on “Don't dumb girls down” ↗…disqualification -- aka not taking things too seriously but then more methodically -- and statement of intent -- aka answering "why are you talking to me?" <-- and answering that truthfully and respectfully) * Mystery Method (high level overview, peacocking and getting yourself in a sociable mood, discarded the rest -- no negging, no routines, Mystery Method is tricky, I had to read this very critically since he seems a bit…
on “The only Buddhist region in Europe” ↗…out on ChatRoulette for a while :-) (Haven't tried it myself). But seriously, I think just practice. I recently read one of the "The Game" books out of curiosity (about the pickup artists, I read "The Mystery Method"). Not sure if I like it, but one thing stood out: in their seminars, they make people go into night clubs and chat up at least 10 women per night (or was it even more, don't remember for sure). in other…
on “Ask HN: I'm way too shy, please help” ↗I found it hard, but in all fairness, I haven't used sales tactics that much. I also didn't do The Game or The Mystery Method. I basically took another dating book's question "how can you find the women of your dreams with just your personality?" and took that as far as I could. Long story short (for me personally): use assortative…
on “Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows” ↗…TechStars Method"? One of the recurrent themes in mentor presentations at TheFunded has been the similarity between pitching startups and "getting the girl". There have been plenty of references to the "Mystery Method", which is a systematic method used by pickup artists to seduce their targets. Trip Adler from Scribd (a YCombinator launchee that is going gangbusters) presented "The Trip Method" for ideation and concept…
on “Secrets of the TechStars method for winning the pitch and getting the girl” ↗