The gardener and the carpenter
by Alison Gopnik · first published 2016
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"Alison Gopnik, a leading developmental psychologist, illuminates the paradoxes of parenthood from a scientific perspective"--
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I think different parents have different goals, so probably the best is to read a bunch of books and pick out the ones you like. Some suggestions: The Gardener and the Carpenter Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/05/the-war... The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline That Really Works! How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Raising An…
on “Ask HN: Any good collaboratively built documentation on good parenting?” ↗…more difficult than it sounds. Kid A is very different from kid B. I've found that things that 'work' with my kids don't work on other kids. Along these lines, I thought this book was interesting: The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children
on “Ask HN: Parents of HN, what are your best sources for evidence-based parenting?” ↗…having more and more invested caregivers produces fitter offspring. Parenthood is a self-inflicted sabotage and I cannot understand how come there are so many parents bearing children worldwide. 1. The Gardener and the Carpenter: Alison Gopnik, Erin Bennett: 9781536617832
on “Hunter-gatherer childcare suggests new key to mother and child well-being” ↗> A new board game gets set up, new pieces doled out, we learn to play the new game Reminds me of this idea about sport / competition from the parenting book, The Gardener and the Carpenter by Alison Gopnik. She says that children must be encouraged to explore, not exploit ("play games"), without any end goal in mind. This lets them figure out the world around them and how they can affect…
on “Suicide rates highest ever among middle-aged men” ↗