The Courage to Be Disliked
by Namita Gokhale · first published 2021
74% recommend21% neutral4% critical
Why HN recommends it
Approachable introduction to Adlerian psychology, written as a Socratic dialogue between teacher and student. Helps readers who worry about others' opinions reframe problems and stop depending on approval.
Common criticism: Some find the writing style padded and wish it were much shorter
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