Simplicity parenting
using the extraordinary power of less to raise calmer, happier, and more secure kids
by Kim John Payne · first published 2009
100% recommend
Today's busier, faster, supersized society is waging an undeclared war . . . on childhood. As the pace of life accelerates to hyperspeed--with too much stuff, too many choices, and too little time--children feel the pressure. They can become anxious, have trouble with friends and school, or even be diagnosed with behavioral problems. Now, in defense of the extraordinary power of less, internationally renowned family consultant Kim John Payne helps parents reclaim for their children the space and freedom that all kids need, allowing their children's attention to focus and their individuality to
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on “Ask HN: Any experience with defiant children?” ↗…had ideas that helped me the most: * Magda Gerber's RIE Philosophy (see https://www.janetlansbury.com), especially useful before age 3 * Ryan Holiday's "The Daily Dad" e-mail list (now also a book) * "Simplicity Parenting" by Kim Payne and Lisa Ross * "Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids" by Bryan Caplan didn't have much specifically useful advice, but basically taught me to just relax and have fun as a parent, and not worry…
on “Tell HN: The regret of parenting and how to handle it” ↗…Respond to conflicts the way you would hope they do as an adult. Some parenting advice that has helped me: -The daily dad: daily parenting tips and philosophy by e-mail https://dailydad.com/ -Book: Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids by Kim John Payne and Lisa M. Ross -Podcasts and blogs from Janet Landsbury https://www.janetlansbury.com/
on “Ask HN: How are you a good dad to your kids?” ↗…parents... I suspect PTSD is widespread among kids in the middle and upper class, but people categorically deny the possibility of it, and these kids may instead be diagnosed with something else. The book "Simplicity Parenting" by Kim John Payne was really interesting, because he was actually a psychologist that worked with children in war refugee camps, and later worked with middle class American children from stressful households,…
Simplicity Parenting is an easy and amazing read. The Audiobook is pretty good as well. :)
on “Launch HN: Trustle (YC W20) – On-demand child development experts for parents” ↗There is a book called “Simplicity Parenting” which I highly recommend. Basically, you’re right. Parents can cause PTSD in their children by fretting about current events. I’m my opinion, it is our job to insulate them until they are of an age where…
on “Youth suicide attempts soared during pandemic, CDC report says” ↗…my kids. I didn’t even particularly like or enjoy them until they were able to move and interact a lot more (3 months, maybe?) Also: two books that I found most helpful: Happiest Baby on the Block and Simplicity Parenting. YMMV. It’s quite different for everyone. Edit: if you’re like me, you’ll pack on the pounds in the next 5 years. I’m working out regularly now and feel / look much better. I wish I’d done that from…
on “Ask HN: First-time dad-to-be. What do you wish you'd known back then?” ↗