Parent effectiveness training
by Gordon, Thomas · first published 1970
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If you want to actually make this happen, read the book, "Parent Effectiveness Training" by Thomas Gordon. Get over the title and understand this is about active participation in a conversation with two people. You listen. You let the other person talk. You don't try to solve their problem,…
on “Rands in Repose: How to Run a 1:1” ↗…kitten. Whatever. Get her going on writing, then reading, the more in writing, then more in reading. For being better in talking to her, and to others, too, get, read, study, think about, and use Thomas Gordon, Parent Effectiveness Training: The Tested New Way to Raise Responsible Children. also called reflective listening. For more, get her several, used will be fine, high school texts in plane geometry, pick a favorite, use the others…
on “What taking my daughter to a comic book store taught me” ↗If you judge by reactions of a large number of parents across the world, "Parent Effectiveness Training" book (and training!) seems like a great resource. Interestingly, his approach to parenting has applications in daily life with adults in general :)
on “Ask HN: Any good collaboratively built documentation on good parenting?” ↗…incapable of e.g. deliberately crying in order to get picked up. If you do not respond to their suffering you are just going to create a needy and insecure child. So we dodged that bullet. 2. The book "Parent Effectiveness Training" which was a revelation to me. The basic idea is that children own their lives and the consequences of their decisions. Of course there is a limit - you don't let a 3 year old run into traffic. But as…
on “Teaching is a slow process of becoming everything you hate” ↗…work and cost once you reach a certain point as the older kids help take care of the younger kids and that gets around the "parents are not gods" problem that are talked about in https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Effectiveness-Training-Respons... also there are a lot of hand-me-downs and other synergies. (Although my dad was quite bitter about getting hand-me-downs and sharing the bed with his brothers...) A lot of the increased…
on “Third of Japan's 18-year-olds women may never have children: study” ↗