Missing out
by Adam Phillips · first published 2012
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Offers advice for letting go of ideas about how life might have been in order to make the most of what life has to offer in the here and now by embracing failure, frustration, and other apparently negative, but necessary, elements of our lives.
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…isolation and disconnection from the so-called "expectations of society". In Digital Vegan [1] I tried to re-word and make more accessible ideas from a book that I found life changing. It is called "Missing Out" by Adam Phillips [2]. It is written in quite dense, psychotherapeutic language that gives me pause to recommend it. If there's just one idea I'd love to get across it is within the subtitle "In Praise…
on “Taking Flight Without a Smart Phone” ↗I'd like to mention the book "Missing Out: In Praise of the Unlived Life" by Adam Phillips which carries a similar sentiment. It might be worth checking out if anyone regularly feels anxiety or frustration about where they are in life when they…
on “Being OK with not being extraordinary” ↗The book "Missing Out: In Praise of the Unlived Life" by Adam Phillips is a bit dry, but helped me to overcome a lot of my feelings of FOMO. Around the same time I read that, I also purged all of my social media accounts.…
on “Fuck You Sunday” ↗You should check out the book "Missing Out" by Adam Phillips. It basically highlights that you should give yourself more credit for the things that you do and that you should be careful not to stress yourself out for not constantly doing something…
on “Ask HN: I feel so shallow and dumb when I see what other smart people are doing” ↗…for good living, dignity and interpersonal dynamics, social status and much more. A powerful influence on my writing in this area has been psychology as much as philosophy. For example Adam Phillips "Missing Out" [3] and the works of John Bowlby on attachment theory. Building healthy relations with digital information technology is a long road I think, and one that requires significant courage and tenacity.…
on “Just say no (to content): Nietzsche’s surprising “information diet”” ↗…make you not want the goal any more. Given the superpower to simply decide to be happy, but risk becoming Diogenes instead of Alexander the Great, who would take it? You'd have to be a-priori happy with missing out on all you presently hold dear [1]. [1] Read "Missing Out" by Adam Phillips for a deep and disturbing account of how powerful that can be,
on “Nobody optimizes happiness” ↗…examples from your life. I mainly regret not taking university seriously half a lifetime ago, but as a result I became a lifelong self-learner. Suggested related reading on the topic: "In Praise of Missing Out: Psychoanalyst Adam Phillips on the Paradoxical Value of Our Unlived Lives" https://www.brainpickings.org/2015/08/17/missing-out-adam-phillips/ ___ In the Ask HN link above, a guy says he opened an…
on “Ask HN: What do you regret in life?” ↗There's a book I found very influential, called "Missing Out" by Adam Phillips. Not something I'd recommend for the casual reader as it's psychologically heavy imho. But it's the best antidote to FOMO, and so it's central theme "In praise of the unlived life"…
on “EU data regulator bans personalised advertising on Facebook and Instagram” ↗