Marry him
by Lori Gottlieb · first published 2010
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You have a fulfilling job, a great group of friends, the perfect apartment, and no shortage of dates. So what if you haven't found The One just yet. Surely he'll come along, right?But what if he doesn't? Or even worse, what if he already has, but you just didn't realize it?Suddenly finding herself forty and single, Lori Gottlieb said the unthinkable in her March 2008 article in The Atlantic: Maybe she and single women everywhere, needed to stop chasing the elusive Prince Charming and instead go for Mr. Good Enough.Looking at her friends' happy marriages to good enough guys who happen to be exc
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…different cities . > You are too picky, even if you don't think you are. Agreed. Actionable advice to OP would be to compromise and narrow down core requirements for a partner. https://smile.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough/dp/0... (Amazon: Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough) https://openlibrary.org/works/OL8109804W/Marry_him?edition=i... (Open Library: Marry Him: The Case for Settling…
on “Ask HN: I’m 41 and still unmarried – what should I do?” ↗…Matthew Lyon, Katie Hafner: The beginning of the internet. Plenty of history and lessons Fun The Hunger Games Trilogy - Suzanne Collins. Young adult fiction that reads fast but makes you think. Life Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough - Lori Gottlieb: Amusing book, easy read and aimed at women, but has some good insights on why we fail to get married before it's too late. I love that I was…
on “Ask HN: Best book you read in 2010 and briefly why” ↗…qualities, generosity, kindness, reliability, and not getting so hung up on things like, you know, whether you’re going to go on a second date with a guy because of how he dressed.” https://smile.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough/dp/0... (Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough) https://openlibrary.org/books/OL23687614M/Marry_him The Atlantic piece that was the genesis for the book: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-h...…
on “A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem” ↗…to family, the so-called “deal breakers” change. Some guys aren’t worldly, but they’d make great dads. 2nd quote from linked article in original piece - an interesting Lori Gottlieb article entitled "Marry Him!" which I'm considering forwarding to a few of my 30-ish single and still serial-dating female friends (considering the negative repercussions). http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry
on “The Eligible Bachelor Paradox” ↗…https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g... https://www.profgalloway.com/a-fewer-good-men/ https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-h... https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6692099-marry-him https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6731751/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place
on “People have been having less sex, whether they’re teenagers or 40-somethings” ↗>If women would rather remain single than setting for a partner who doesn't match all their expectations This is why Lori Gottlieb wrote Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. <https://smile.amazon.com/Marry-Him-Case-Settling-Enough-eboo...> One can also see the relation to the message of Susan "the Princeton mom" Patton's Marry…
on “Software engineers paying 75K to get 3 inches taller” ↗Currently reading: Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away by Annie Duke. Before that: - Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb - On Settling by Robert E. Goodin - What do you say after you say hello?: The psychology of human destiny by Eric Berne
on “Ask HN: What books are you reading?” ↗…idea, trend, method, or ideology in a new way (which ties back into a). All three of those could be further developed as points, but I think they nonetheless help describe what HN is about. I think "Marry Him!" matches those criteria (since I submitted it): few if any sources covering mating markets and their incentives in as much depth; the stories match some of the data, as developed in books like Tim Harford's…
on “Marry Him: The case for settling for Mr. Good Enough” ↗