Intimate connections
by David D. Burns · first published 1985
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…social skills without studying pickup artistry. Good resources for improving social skills without pickup artistry are typically written by psychologists or psychiatrists with clinical experience, such as "Intimate Connections" by David Burns (same author as "Feeling Good," a reputable book on cognitive-behavioral techniques). At the least, a focus on financial independence and stability can be a good foundation to working…
on “On Aging Alone (2021)” ↗Odds are your last sentence was a figure of speech, but I will go ahead and post this as a reference: "Intimate connections" by David Burns is a well regarded book on the somewhat related subject of building relationships. http://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Connections-David-D-Burns/dp/...
on “Depression, Burn Out and Writing Code” ↗…Google engineer who made sure most of it was evidence-based [2]. Obviously you'll also realize because of the course you want to pickup aerobic exercise. David Burns is my favorite psychologist (I read Intimate Connections from him, his claim to fame is Feeling Good). He has an answer to your question, which is Ten Days to Self Esteem [3]. Though, when I read the reviews you might just want to get one of his other books.…
on “Ask HN: Courses/resources to improve my self-esteem and believe in myself more?” ↗…developing skills I always wanted to have. Last quick note: I got a lot of mileage from referring to "Feeling Good" by David Burns for self-treatment with CBT whenever I felt trapped by negative thoughts. "Intimate Connections" also by Burns helped me for relationship advice, which helps with enjoying the present.
on “It is easier to educate a Do-er than to motivate the educated” ↗…the Burns book recommendation. Burns wrote a book in the 80s about how to meet people. It was the best book I ever read on how to meet girls. No gimmicks, just advice that works. http://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Connections-David-D-Burns/dp/...
on “Ask HN: Books That Should Be Read” ↗I read Intimate Connections from David Burns (author of Feeling Good) and while it was after my low self-esteem period, I thought to myself "if only I had this book, it'd have taken 2 years less."
on “Ask HN: Courses/resources to improve my self-esteem and believe in myself more?” ↗…relationships does not have a one size fits all solution. Maybe this will be the case in the future, but for now, no one figured it out yet. - Learn cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Read David Burns Intimate Connections and Feeling Good. - Learn Mindfulness Meditation and other forms. Read Search Inside Yourself by Chade Meng-Tan. - Finding a therapist is always a good idea. They can second those books and they can…
on “Procrastination is about managing emotions, not time” ↗David Burns made this point quite clearly in the self-help book "Intimate Connections", which came out in 1985. Still, I guess it's good to see the message get out.
on “Start doing more things alone” ↗