How to Influence People
by John C. Maxwell, Jim Dornan · first published 2013
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…did it in a religious group(a tribe in itself) Thanks to this experience I can make friends very fast in a new place, something few adults know how to do. If you are going to read, read a book called "How to influence people and make friends", but do not read the new book that is a badly revised book by the incompetent descendants of the writer, read the old original book. But reading books is not going to help because you…
on “Ask HN: How to Be Alone?” ↗Well, it can help you, but it's not "self-help." Just a lot of information on how persuasion works and how to influence people. It's considered one of the classics in that area and is - IMO - definitely worth a read.
on “5 Marketing Books Every App Developer Needs to Read” ↗…to make friends". I think it is the other way round. People criticize it because "How to make friends" is the first and more prominent part of the title, while the book is not primarily about that. "How to influence people" fits the content much better than "How to win friends" but "influence" isn't the most appropriate word either and I guess that would not have sold the book nearly as well as its actual title. Apart…
on “Monica: Personal CRM. Remember everything about your friends, family and etc.” ↗…subject to these social tricks and manipulations? This thought truly bothers me. To hear a complement and not knowing if it was true and genuine or I was complemented simply because that person had read "How to influence people and win friends" last week and wanted to try his manipulation techniques on me. Maybe instead of promoting these social skills we need to promote the appreciation of honesty and having some self control…
on “How Studying Body Language Changed the Way I Socialize” ↗I believe it’s better if they are. I once reported to a CTO whose bible was How To Influence People and Make Friends. He ordered a migration of 4 million records to be done in a weekend because he had promised the CEO “everything would be fine by Monday” but I had told him that that plan would require…
on “A CTO should be technical” ↗I once reported to a CTO whose bible was How To Influence People and Make Friends. On the flip side, I once worked with a CTO who was technical, but couldn't make friends or influence people. End result was that he couldn't get senior managers behind his ideas or…
on “A CTO should be technical” ↗…here, If you want to actually find challenging books I recommend sticking with essay, textbooks (go to a university page and buy the textbooks listed for a course), and classics (stuff like Hume, not How to influence people), and avoid anything you can find in an airport bookshop. But careful, they are actually challenging, and won’t be as satisfying as reading some divulgation or self-help book, and will require actual…
on “Ask HN: Good Metabooks?” ↗I've seen people mention "How to influence people and make friends" before. I finally decided I'll read it. The PDF is available here for anyone else interested in following along :) https://dn720004.ca.archive.org/0/items/english-collections-... Edit:…
on “Ask HN: How to Be Alone?” ↗