How to argue and win every time
by Gerry Spence · first published 1995
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How to Argue and Win Every Time is a book that teaches you how to argue in everyday life - at home, in the bedroom, with the boss, with teachers, and with your kids. But it is also a book with sweeping implications for American society, for at its heart, it proposes a new philosophy - that winning is not what you think it is and that your enemy's loss may be your loss as well. Gerry Spence, the noted trial lawyer, says we were born to make the winning argument as we were born to walk. But argument is an art as well as a technique to be learned. The winning argument starts with a mindset, one t
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One book that had a large influence on me was "How to Argue & Win Every Time: At Home, At Work, In Court, Everywhere, Everyday" by Gerry Spence. The portion of the book which spoke to me the most about arguing in relationships. The author poses the idea of intentionally losing when arguing with a loved one since the victory will usually be a hollow one. It might seem like simple advice, but I fo
on “Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?” ↗…had to purchase of course!) referred to the book. Indeed, the best way to get rich quick is to sell get rich quick schemes. On another note, an equally good book that is also used for manipulation is How to argue and win every time by late lawyer Gerry Spence. The book does what it says on the tin but it's more on persuasion methods and framing, which of course can be used for nefarious purposes.
on “Talking to 35 Strangers at the Gym” ↗well the first book i tried was "how to argue and win every time" by gerry spence...not a particularly great book, but once i finished it, i moved to classics like lord of the rings, the great gatsby, 20000 leagues under the sea, etc. One suggestion is that even though…
on “Things You Can Do That Will Make You Happier” ↗