Give and Take
Why Helping Others Drives Our Success
by Adam Grant, Adam M. Grant · first published 2013
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Research-backed look at giving versus taking in work and networking, with a framework of givers, takers, and matchers and practical insight into sincere networking; suits working professionals.
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For generations, we have focused on the individual drivers of success: passion, hard work, talent, and luck. But in today's dramatically reconfigured world, success is increasingly dependent on how we interact with others. This book illuminates what effective networking, collaboration, influence, negotiation, and leadership skills have in common. The author examines the surprising forces that shape why some people rise to the top of the success ladder while others sink to the bottom. In professional interactions, it turns out that most people operate as either takers, matchers, or givers. Wher
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…generous with their time, and thoughtful feedback. Those people are golden and will make all the difference. Incidentally, here's good read on Give & Take > http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16158498-give-and-take
on “Ask HN: Settling on an Idea” ↗I read about a book a week this year, and the one that I loved most was "Give and Take" by Adam Grant. The book discusses two opposite approaches to work and life: being a taker (where you always try to use people and situations to your advantage) and being a giver (where you try to help…
on “Ask HN: What book changed your life in 2013?” ↗You should read "Give and Take" by Adam Grant. It clearly shows all the benefits of being a Giver rather than a Taker. I've written down my learnings [0], since I really enjoyed reading it. - [0] https://www.robinwieruch.de/lessons-learned-give-and-take/
on “Ask HN: Fear?” ↗Give and Take by Adam Grant - even after a few years, it still causes me to constantly reflect on my own actions’ motive and if they’re “otherish” or not. Getting Things Done - not the method but the insight that…
on “Ask HN: Which books have made you introspect?” ↗> what's the most valuable question one could ever ask? "How can I best help you?" Asked with the sincere intention to be of some assistance. Incidentally, great book recommendation, Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16158498-give-and-take
on “Ask HN: The most valuable question no one asks” ↗…your own personal network & broader university community influence in turn. Additional food for thought on this process, read Adam Grant's book Give & Take >http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16158498-give-and-take
on “As a math professor, how can I help grad students find nonacademic jobs?” ↗Related to this I'd recommend Adam Grant's Bestseller Give and Take. The surprising conclusion is while some "Givers" end up at the bottom, other "Givers" also end up at the top. The key to doing good and doing well is to practice what he calls "generous tit for tat".
on “Why I Quit Being So Accommodating (1922)” ↗Pretty popular and not a niche book, but I enjoyed Give and Take by Adam Grant very much [0]. - [0] https://www.robinwieruch.de/lessons-learned-give-and-take/
on “Ask HN: Best books you read in 2017?” ↗Pretty popular and not a niche book, but I enjoyed Give and Take by Adam Grant very much [0]. - [0] https://www.robinwieruch.de/lessons-learned-give-and-take/
on “Ask HN: Books you read in 2017?” ↗…and how much talent you multiply in others in your community of peers and your network. Look at ways to keep improving your own skills but help others get more skilled and successful too. Read the book "Give and Take" by Adam Grant. Last but not least, you can't stop your mind from comparing your achievements to others. But you can learn to observe your mind and your thinking, without "buying into it" or being a…
on “Ask HN: How do you deal with professional jealousy and getting older?” ↗Funny you should say this. The author Adam Grant is an organizational psychologist at Wharton and has a book called "Give and Take" that talks about a lot of this. And unlike most business books, it's all backed up with well researched data.
on “Raising a moral child” ↗Anyone interested in reading more on this topic should check out Adam Grant's Give and Take. Incidentally, one of the interesting takeaways from the book is that if you look at plot of people mapped to career success, you'll find that benevolent givers dominate -both- ends of the distribution.…
on “The Ronco Principle” ↗This reminds me of the lessons in Give and Take by Adam Grant. There is almost a Zen aspect of sincere networking. The more your end goal is to simply network with others and increase your network the less sincere you are likely to operate. However…
on “How to Become Well-Connected” ↗There’s a great book that goes over this by Wharton Professor Adam Grant called Give and Take
on “Are people with dark personality traits more likely to succeed?” ↗Adam Grant's Give and Take is a good layman application of game theory to interpersonal relationships. Tit for tat would be called the 'matchers'
on “Game Theory (2007)” ↗