Getting the love you want
by Harville Hendrix · first published 1988
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…give some breathing room by working in a coffee shop or something. Of course that one issue is not everything, but it is something that could be worked on in the short term. I highly recommend the book Getting the Love You Want. edit: Rereading this, it sounds more brusque than I intended. Also, if you do ask your wife what is wrong, that can obviously be a charged conversation. Getting the Love You Want has a technique called…
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on “Life Changing Books on Sex and Relationships” ↗Yes, I learned about Imago dialogue through a book called "Getting the Love You Want" (which sounded gimmicky, but it was recommended by a therapist friend, and I've found it surprisingly practical, not just for intimate relationships but also just relationships with friends and coworkers).…
on “Scar Tissues Make Relationships Wear Out – John Ousterhout” ↗I was introduced to Imago therapy many years ago, back when I was still just dating the woman who is now my wife. I've recommended the book "Getting the Love You Want" to several people. I can tell you this much -- of all the things I've done in my life, and all the various types of pain I've suffered, the "active listening" part required of Imago is the very hardest…
on “Scar Tissues Make Relationships Wear Out – John Ousterhout” ↗