Fair Play
by Eve Rodsky · first published 2019
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…done: It is not trivial to surface all these issues, and issues un-surfaced do indeed fall into the pathological dichotomy above. To that end, (and in particular for working parents) I heartily recommend Fair Play by Eve Rodsky and the process it describes. It’s not easy to identify and mitigate all these deltas, and submitting to the books guidance mitigates the formidable cognitive load of the process.
on “Executive Function Theft” ↗…garbage, rather than starting from neutral ground. You can find quite a lot of data showing that the burden of managing domestic matters falls primarily on women. I would recommend people check out the book Fair Play which examines the problem and puts forward a system where people are assigned various personal tasks that need to be done (there are 100 in total, not all of which may apply to your life/household):…
on “I'm the mom in that viral Giants clip. Let me tell you about my husband” ↗…by foisting ownership of and accountability for tasks onto my husband. The only slight hiccup in this plan is that if your husband doesn’t do the tasks, the system falls apart. > The problem, as both Fair Play’s author, Eve Rodsky, and I, and probably lots of other women, see it, is the men.
on “Doomed to Be a Tradwife” ↗