Date-onomicsJon Birger
Date-onomics
by Jon Birger · first published 2015
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It's not that he's just not that into you - it's that there aren't enough of him. And the numbers prove it. Using a combination of demographics, statistics, game theory, and number-crunching, Date-onomics tells what every single, college-educated, heterosexual, looking-for-a-partner woman needs to know: The "man deficit" is real. It's a fascinating, if sobering read, with two critical takeaways: One, it's not you. Two, knowledge is power, so here's what to do about it. --Publisher's description.
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…nature of the "problem". As a single man of early thirties, this sort of article horrifies and saddens me. You need to find your own happiness and maybe it shouldn't depend on other people. Jon Birger's Date-onomics(2015) discusses this phenomenon[1] pretty astutely, if you're interested in reading further data. [1] https://www.amazon.com/Date-onomics-Dating-Became-Lopsided-N...
on “The Mating Crisis Among Educated Women” ↗This is a funny comment, but it's also better advice than it might seem, for reasons Jon Birger describes in Date-onomics: http://jakeseliger.com/2015/09/19/briefly-noted-date-onomics...
on “San Francisco Tech Firms See Workers Flee from $4,500 Rents” ↗…the S.F. Bay Area SF has an unusually lopsided gender ratio, with more college-educated men than women, while almost all other major metro areas skew towards having more women than men. Jon Birger's Date-onomics covers this: http://jakeseliger.com/2015/09/19/briefly-noted-date-onomics..., and I rather liked it.
on “How Tinder's “feedback loop” forces men and women into extreme strategies” ↗The book Datenomics explains how the out of balance gender ratio affects the local dating market. It was really eye opening: https://www.amazon.com/Date-onomics-Dating-Became-Lopsided-N...
on “Ask HN: Poor dating options for heterosexual men in the Bay area?” ↗…9780761182085). > It’s not that he’s just not that into you—it’s that there aren’t enough of him. And the numbers prove it. Using a combination of demographics, statistics, game theory, and number-crunching, Date-onomics tells what every single, college-educated, heterosexual, looking-for-a-partner woman needs to know: The “man deficit” is real. It’s a fascinating, if sobering read, with two critical takeaways: One, it’s…
on “Why aren't we talking about the real reason male college enrollment is dropping?” ↗This is the basic premise of Dateonomics [https://www.amazon.com/Date-onomics-Dating-Became-Lopsided-N...] - the author looks at dating through the lens of gender ratios of college-educated people in different cities. Outside of SF though, the situation is likely reversed - many…
on “Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?” ↗…musical chairs analogy to explain how a 4:3 ratio can create such a large imbalance. Birger explains that after people start to marry off, that ratio quickly drops to 2:1, then 3:1." "For his first book, “Date-onomics,” Birger studied this phenomenon in the perfect control setting: college campuses. He found that when there are more women than men on campus, students’ dating behavior is oriented more towards hookup…
on “Most young men are single. Most young women are not” ↗…doing the best given the circumstances - the ratio! - and that everything else is dancing around this because, if people knew, you know, they'd stop using them. [1] https://www.google.com/books/edition/Date_onomics/7GDVBgAAQB... (page 22)
on “Tyranny of the Marginal User: why software gets worse, not better, over time” ↗