A new guide to rational living

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• npsimons · Feb 20, 2014 · Recommends

  Try "Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy" by David Burns and "A New Guide to Rational Living" by Albert Ellis. Wikipedia has some relevant information: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rational_emotive_behavior_ther... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy Contrary to what…

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• yesenadam · Oct 16, 2021 · Recommends

  …something it was easy to also do myself, until I learned just to stop, to never do it. Then when you are kind to yourself, it's natural to be kind to others. Some books I remember helping with this: New Guide to Rational Living by Albert Ellis (on becoming aware of your habitual thoughts and self-talk, and changing them for the better where necessary), Wayne Dyer's first two books Your Erroneous Zones and Pulling Your Own Strings…

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• yesenadam · Dec 23, 2021 · Recommends

  …between different areas. Blah blah. In short, I can't see this as a bad thing at all, don't know why you're beating yourself up. Enjoy! p.s. Maybe try cognitive behavioral therapy? (e.g. Albert Ellis' book New Guide to Rational Living) and look at what you are saying to yourself, what are your beliefs, that make you feel bad about this—sounds like guilt or shame or something—and change them. I've found changing beliefs like that, thought-habits,…

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• npsimons · Dec 16, 2012 · Recommends

  …depressed, you should be proud. Not many people can claim the title of "statup founder". Second, apart from getting a new therapist, you might want to look into books like "Feeling Good" by David Burns and "A New Guide to Rational Living" by Albert Ellis. Both are aimed at helping overcome depression. Exercise is good, but the effects may taper off over time (or have no effect at all). Mainly, if you're not exercising, you should, but…

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• yesenadam · Jan 21, 2018 · Recommends

  …your personal shit to not be triggered in those situations. I know I'm not so advanced as that. I got a lot from a wide range of self-help books. e.g. early Wayne Dyer, SARK; psychological books, e.g. New Guide to Rational Living; spiritual books e.g. new age, hindu, sufi, xtian, buddhism of various kinds.. Too many to name, and everyone needs something different - I just took what was helpful from a wide range of stuff. Since…

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• yesenadam · Jan 18, 2019 · Recommends

  …Feeling Good years ago, don't remember anything about it - maybe because I'd read Ellis and a lot of others first.) I did get a lot from, and have recommend to others with success, Albert Ellis' book The New Guide to Rational Living, about what he called rational emotive therapy - many subsequent methods are very similar, because it works. In short, observe your negative thoughts and change them. No woo or huge cost involved. From…

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• yesenadam · Jan 24, 2019 · Recommends

  …'successful', and it would teach me how! By then I'd already read and got a lot from some of the useful books in the field - Awaken the Giant Within, Life 101, How to Win Friends and Influence People, The New Guide to Rational Living, Effortless Mastery, The Art of Possibility etc. For the kind of success I value most, I've been inspired for decades by, and owe the most to, writers such as Robert Fulghum, SARK, and most of all, Emerson.

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• yesenadam · Jan 20, 2020 · Recommends

  For Ellis, see his classic New Guide to Rational Living. It's about observing the things you say to yourself and believe, and changing them to more positive things if necessary. Which is surprisingly simple and easy to do.

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• yesenadam · Jul 23, 2020 · Recommends

  …well is difficult at best without that, and we're with ourselves 24/7. Treat yourself like someone you really love.[1] Sounds like you're blaming yourself, torturing yourself! The Albert Ellis' classic New Guide to Rational Living[2] was also very helpful to me, to become aware of how I was treating myself, what things I was saying to myself, and changing the negative things. John Perry's essay on procrastination might be helpful…

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• yesenadam · Jan 24, 2019 · Recommends

  …ground-breaking?! Seriously though, maybe you aren't 'great', whatever that means exactly, and I doubt it's necessary for you to believe that, whether it's true or not. You might find (books like) Albert Ellis' New Guide to Rational Living useful - I did! It's about observing and recording your recurring thoughts, particularly ones that make you feel bad, and replacing them with more accurate, helpful ones - stopping the self-sabotage.…

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• npsimons · Aug 7, 2012 · Recommends

  …it's not as touchy feely as it sounds (okay, maybe it is in its examples, but the solutions are all along rational lines - see also http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rational_emotive_behavior_thera... and "A New Guide to Rational Living").

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• yesenadam · Jan 9, 2020 · Mentions

  …psychologically in many ways, learning to love myself, communicate better, stop the negative self-talk, recover self-esteem etc etc. To name a few: Tony Robbins, early Wayne Dyer, Joanna Field, SARK, New Guide to Rational Living, Emerson, Ben Zander, Peace Pilgrim ... and a lot of self-helpish books from various religious traditions. (Zen, Thai forest monk Buddhism, Sufi, Christian mystic, Hindu gurus etc) Then the psychological/mythical…

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