1-2-3 magic
by Thomas W. Phelan · first published 1995
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"Being a parent is one of the most rewarding experiences in life, but every family faces challenges that can be frustrating and overwhelming. For more than twenty-five years, internationally renowned clinical psychologist Thomas W. Phelan's 1-2-3 Magic has helped millions of parents, teachers, and caregivers raise independent, emotionally intelligent children and build happier, healthier families-all through an easy-to-understand program that you'll swear 'works like magic'"--
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…closed once I'm in the rocking chair. > You have to add in a boss who spends 2/3rd of the time you're home screaming at you to the mix. You really need to learn modern discipline techniques. We use 1-2-3 magic. When our toddler screams at us, it's usually an immediate "ONE!" If it's really bad, there's a time out with no counting. It really works. I even help my wife learn by shouting "ONE!" "TWO!" ... when…
on “People Who Claim to Work 75-Hour Weeks Usually Only Work About 50 Hours” ↗…https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strat... https://www.amazon.com/Explosive-Child-Understanding-Frustra... https://www.amazon.com/Simplicity-Parenting-Extraordinary-Ca... https://www.amazon.com/1-2-3-Magic-Effective-Discipline-Chil...
on “Ask HN: Any experience with defiant children?” ↗Agree with the above. My daughter is nearly 3 and very confident and energetic. My wife picked up this book https://www.amazon.co.uk/1-2-3-Magic-Effective-Discipline-Pa... and is using the techniques. It seems to be working. It's more a means of training the adult not the child. Try not to freak out when they do the wrong thing but make them know…
on “Ask HN: Any experience with defiant children?” ↗The book 1-2-3 Magic tames even the wildest kids if you are consistent. It feels humane to give kids a few chances to change their trajectory. Highly recommend.
on “How to parent more predictably (2018)” ↗Some of the advice about controlling your reactions to avoid reinforcing tantrums etc. sounds straight out of 1-2-3 Magic, an old and popular parenting book. https://smile.amazon.com/1-2-3-Magic-Discipline-Effective-Pa...
on “There’s a Better Way to Parent: Less Yelling, Less Praise” ↗I've been reading the 1-2-3 Magic book (expecting my first soon), and the philosophies have extremely stark differences. The 123 approach outright attacks (what it calls) the fallacy of "little adults" - saying that explaining is just…
on “Taking Children Seriously” ↗"Oster now finds herself brainstorming punishments that a four-year-old will find “devastating.”" (on 1-2-3 Magic) So she found it "just works". But how does she define "it works"? The child becoming obedient? That's not exactly what many parents want, but it would be the classic approach to child rearing (teaching…
on “Parenting by the Numbers” ↗